Forgive

"When you love someone, let them know... You never know what will happen the next minute.... Learn to build a life together.. Learn to love each other. For who they are.. not what they are..."

Sometimes we spend time asking who is responsible or who to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. We miss out some warmth in human relationship in giving each other support. After all, shouldn't forgiving someone we love be the easiest thing in the world to do? Treasure what you have. Don't multiply pain, anguish and suffering by holding on to forgiveness.

If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world.

Take off all your envies, jealousies, unwillingness to forgive, selfishness, and fears and you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.Try to move on different paths, don't reply to the people in the same pan. Its difficult, but may be it can bring a change in the perspective. If not for anything else, at least you will save yourselves from the agony and anguish.

Change.. unacceptable but unavoidable!!

Its been long since I last wrote. Life takes a toll on everything. True in its every sense or perhaps I am finding the reasons of not confronting myself since long. Its been very long journey, so many changes have happened  in these months. The biggest one is unacceptable to me and I am still fighting with it.

The person closest to you turns into a stranger and you cannot do anything because you are helpless. Its a true thing that God has plans for you and defines everybody's role in your life. It becomes tough to let go of those who are very close to you, but still the moment comes and you try to avoid fight, tolerate , beg but sometimes I suppose destiny is harsh on you. It wont listen to your inner voices and how hard you try things are not in control.

He was a very good person, she very friendly, always giggling. He being very studious, sincere, she being the last-bench-er, trying to live all the moments of life. She wanted to be friends with this person (not especially but in general) and he just never talked with girls. Still she never completely stopped talking to him and always maintained a little dialog with him.

Then came the time when he needed a support , somebody's time, assurance that he can go on. He asked "I need to discuss. Would you help?" As always sh never said no to anybody. She supported him all through by  heart and whenever he needed her at any time, she helped him.

They became very good friends and to her it seemed that she got a friend of lifetime. She never made such deep relations and was always of the mind that people will betray her but this time it felt that let us give life a try. Let destiny prove that somebody can be her best friend too.

For three years it was all fine, they would talk once in a week , always they shared the joys and sorrows. In the meantime their graduation completed and she had gone for her post-graduation. He was waiting for his joining. By the time his joining came, 1 year got completed. Till now she did not make any new friends and completely relied on this friendship much more than anything. Her life had not moved at all. She thought if they continued this friendship for so long as one year, nothing would change and they will be friends forever. 

Then started the drama of the destiny. She never realized that in all this course of time it was she who was putting all the efforts to continue the relationship. He never took any major/minor efforts. Now she started testing whether he would call once in a month also or so. The results were worst. It is said that

"Better to communicate before the time the relationship breaks." 

She knew this very well. She tried to communicate but all in vain. One day she heard from her girl-friend that he has fallen and has been hurt. She called him and he disconnected within 3 minutes or so saying will call back, there are other friends to attend. This used to happen before also and he never used to call back but now she was also busy and could not communicate much. So she felt bad that even when they are talking after such a long time, he does not have time for her.

She never was jealous of his girl-friend, always supported their love, wants to get them married and still he behaved like this. The behavior did not stop here at all and the guy became even more reluctant. She called him thrice, became so much angry, asked all sorts of questions that whether he wants this friendship or not?? No reply, as always he said nothing of this sort. 

Again she felt the thread is going to break sooner or later. And it so proved itself. Then came her birthday and he did not even wish her. That day she understood everything.

That relationships break even if you try till heavens to save them, .......that its as if that even if a person gives 200% she can lose, ............that she misses those chilly nights when she used to talk with him on the terrace, .....that she misses those brainstorming sessions which they had,....that she needs consolation when she is low,,, that she misses her true friend ......that some charm is needed always,,,a simple girl can never achieve a good friendship..........